Have you ever wondered
why so many people who
" Try" to "Quit" smoking
fail? |
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Or why, when you tell your friends your "trying to
give up" they insist on offering you cigarettes - "Oh
go on, it's just one". |
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If you want to stop
smoking, for whatever reason, I will help you achieve
your goal and help you become fitter and healthier
in the process. |
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| It's only when we start to look at the language we
use to describe what it is we're "trying" to do, that
we can begin to make some sense of it. |
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| The language that we use can tell us alot about what
we're really thinking and what we really want. |
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| For example, a friend of mine told me he was "...going
to try and quit" recently. |
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| "That's really
great!" I said, "You'll be healthier,
wealthier and happier when you do. But, I know you too
well, and I know you've never quit on anything in your
life, you're so determined, you'll keep at something
against all the odds, just to show you can do it!" |
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| My friend agreed,
he'd never thought of it like that before, and when
I pointed out to him that when we "try" something,
we rarely succeed, he began to see my point. |
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| Those of you who
have children will know what I mean, you ask little
Johnny
to "just try the sprouts
/ green beans / fisherman's pie" or whatever it
is that you've just spent the last however long preparing.
They put
the tiniest
piece into their mouth and.....
"I don't like it! I've tried it and I don't like
it!" |
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| Now things can be
very different when we use different langage to achieve
our goal, when we say to little Johnny (conversationally) "Eat
the sprouts / green beans / fisherman's pie (first
peel two fishermen...)" because "that's
all there is",
the response is often more positive. Sure, they may object
a bit, but using the word "Try" allows them
the option of failing. |
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| Exactly the same can be said for adults who "try" to
do things, think about the last time you "tried" to do
something - did you do it, or did you fail? |
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| And this is why
I won't help you "Try to Quit", because I
don't believe people are quitters and I do believe that
trying allows you to fail. |
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| It's how we process
these words at the unconscious level that gives them
their full effect, it's easy to
say that I'm just splitting hairs, and to certain degree
that would be true, yet when we begin understand how
the words
we use affect what we actually do, then it becomes more
and more compelling. |
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| As far as your friends are concerned,
their reaction will be different when they offer you
a cigarette and you say "No thanks, I don't smoke!",
and if pushed "I've stopped smoking". |
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| So, if you really
want to become a "Non-Smoker",
if you want to stop smoking, I'll help you do it. |
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* I guarantee
you will stop in 1 session, or we'll see you again
for free until you do. |
Call me today on 0151 931 5184. |
